Sorry my post was confusing.
Yes, my husband went from a regular phone to an iPhone when he changed. I went from a Blackberry to an iPhone. We both have to pay the $30 fee to have a smartphone. We both were able to text before. However, because mine was a Blackberry, ATT doesn't allow the text option to come across w/o paying additional (on top of the $30). They just upped that unlimited texting fee to $20/month (from $10/month).
And yes, after my phone call this morning, that is the first time anyone pointed out to me that "green = imessage" and "blue = all other texts". Sorry. I'm just not that in tune with texting to realize that on my own.
And yes, I was really excited when I updated my firmware to iOS 5 because many of the folks I texted also updated and I could finally text a few customers again.
However, the whole issue about being in a WiFi spot in order for iMessage to really be free... no, I had no clue about that, nor have I ever heard anyone say that until ATT told me today.
Part of this is because I just don't make the connection between being able to use my phone in this spot or that spot. I, very naively, thought that when I paid for service it was available.
Again, this could not possibly be any more complicated to the average user. I thought I was an above-average user but I realize I am very low on the list of knowing how to manage a smartphone effectively.
I'm just very frustrated that it takes so much time to be able to effectively use a smartphone and so much money to try to have one. It's just very very frustrating.
And yes, my husband has been the one monitoring the account. He just didn't mention that I'd been going over on previous months. Apparently it hasn't been much. Just frustrated about the entire issue, all the way around.