hi my friend gave me an iphone but on the screen it says 'iphone disabled connect to itunes

I have got an iphone 3 from my friend that had been used by his ex wife. The phone says ' iphone disabled connect to itunes.

She 'cant remember her passcode'

I have put the phone into restore mode and connected to itunes, ( i downloaded the latest edition ) but it says its going to take 3 hours to download software - its still downloading and then earlier I got an error code oxE800002D. I cant find the error code so dont know what it means.

I dont know if I am wasting my time trying to get it working or if it will be possible to get the phone in working order ( with lots of help from you all :-) )

Any help or advice will be gratefully recieved