Currently Being ModeratedJun 29, 2012 8:44 AM (in response to GossamerS)
Have you tried this?
In Mail/Preferences/General you can choose Automatically under Add invitations in iCal:
In iCal/Preferences/Advanced you can check Automatically retrieve invitations from Mail.
Currently Being ModeratedJun 30, 2012 11:52 AM (in response to GossamerS)
Are you receiving the ics invite to an Exchange email address by any chance?
If so, have you added the Exchange account to iCal? If you haven't, then the email will be deleted when you choose the response but the event will NOT be added to iCal. You have to add the Exchange account into iCal and enable it for the event to add from an Outlook invite sent to Mail:
In iCal: iCal > Preferences > Accounts > + > Account type = Exchange > add email address and password.
Make sure "Enable this account" is ticked.
Hope this helps - I had been very frustrated by this problem and only just worked out the solution today. It worked for me so I'll keep my fingers crossed...
Currently Being ModeratedJul 1, 2012 10:29 AM (in response to jamesh1978)
Thanks for all of your responses.
I redid everything you guys mentioned and at one point I got a message that it wasn't reaching the server. The option to "resolve to server" came up (which wasn't the default option) and I clicked it for the heck of it. Sure enough, it fixed the connection. Again, what was odd was that the deault was "try again".
It's working fine now, but since I don't know what caused the disconnect in the first place, I'm hoping the connection doesn't break again, I accept a meeting, and it doesn't get added to iCal. You'd think there'd be a redundancy for .ics files where it would say:
You have responded to an invite. Would you like to add to iCal?
[ ] Never ask me again
Or it would there would be an option in Mail that says "Display Calendar invites as  Attachment  Email."
I know the preferences should take care of this, but meetings and appointments are important enough for this type of anal retentiveness.
Thanks again fo rall your help.