No, you are not able to use your iPhone to remotely control your iPad.
This discussion that I was in April may have info that is of help though: https://discussions.apple.com/message/18131645#18131645.
thanks for your fast reactions on my question
too bad that it is not possible to remote control your ipad via iphone. are you sure that there is no other way i can control my ipad (without buying a new dock)?
apple should really look into this thing, because a remote or a iphone as remote would be very handy.
if not, than thanks again
All of the research I did was in April, so there might be something else out in the market place that wasn't there in April, but as I said in the post I linked to:
"This is the ONLY product that that I could find that would / may allow you TO remotely control the iPad, NOT use your iPad as a remote ( 99.9% of answers were about using iPad AS a remote).
There are other wireless "presentation" remotes, but from what I could see they would ONLY work with a computer ( NOT iPad )."
I am not sure if this has changed or not, you would need to do a Google search.
I may be way off the mark but if you want to controll a remote device you can always use something like logme in..or remote desktop..
As long as you install and allow the prog to run on the device you want to controll then you can do it from anywhere in the world, I think!!
PS, not sure but you can always look at the apps available for remote access for your devices..
You are in fact able to remotely control your iOS device from another iOS device to play music. Check out Tango Remote. https://itunes.apple.com/sc/app/tango-remote-control-media/id345279970?mt=8
This very moment, I am controlling my iPad 3's music from my iPhone 5 using the PodLink app:
This app has been around since 2009, and allows Playlist selection, but not individual songs...
Created by a University of Michigan programming course student, Tyler Pasche, it connects using Wi-Fi or Bluetooth...
Thanks for your help, I now use the following:
1. Tango Remote
2. SpotQueue (for Spotify)
3. Home Sharing for Mac to play rest of the files... http://ipadnotebook.wordpress.com/2011/03/17/stream-music-to-your-ipad-from-a-ma c/