Currently Being ModeratedNov 14, 2012 1:44 AM (in response to Sallystewart)
You can set up every device differently in iTunes. Connect your phone and deselect the option to sync movies in the movie pane. When you connect your iPad, the option will still be selected, iTunes remembers the settings for each device.
Also make sure that the option to automatically sync new purchases to your phone is deactivated in Settings/iTunes and App Store/Auto Downloads.