The only way to remove or change the passcode if it has been forgotten is to restore via iTunes.
SInce you mention you are having issues downloading iTunes, are we to conclude that you have never synced and backed up the device before? If so, you will lose everything on the device as you will be forced to restore as new.
Why will your computer not let you download iTunes? What happens when you try?
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