i want to sync 2 devices to my itunes but choose different apps and videos for each, is that possible and how?
Make sure you give each device a unique name in the set process
In Itunes choose devices and click on the app radio button . Here you can choose which apps you want on a specific device.
click the Music radio button and do the same
Movies and TV etc........
Yes it is absolutely possible and as for how?; just connect it and sync. No special procedure necessary. iTunes treats each device separately
Yes, it works for Apps, Music, Video and Books. Not for Contacts, Calendars etc.
Actually provided you haven't set up sync via iCloud - Yes you can choose to sync differing calendars and contacts and even e-mail accounts via iTunes and differing devices as well.
If you choose to sync via iCloud as the name suggests all associated devices share the same data base or the air.
I don't think OP needs to merge Contacts and Calendars.
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