Hey fellow Accord owner. I experinced the same promblem with my 2011 Accord coupe this morining. I was furious becuase my iphone 5 would not pair. It was able to loacte handsfreelink but would not pair. I was ready to give up. It would find it and would not connect. Out of frustration i kept pressing on "not connected" message furiously for about 10 times until the iphone 5 finanly gave and and connected. I tested it it works fine i can receive calls without slowing down or anything. The only thing that is not working properly but i can live with is when i get in to my car even though the bluetooth is turned on, it will not automatically connect with the car i would have to go and manually press the infamour " not connected" message. Excuse my mispelling and i hope it works for you.