Currently Being ModeratedJan 25, 2013 9:55 AM (in response to cutitcountrygrl)
If it's showing the red disabled screen then you will need to connect it to a computer in order to reset it, and you may need to put the iPad into recovery mode : http://support.apple.com/kb/ht1808
If you do it via a computer that it hasn't been synced to then (from here) :
If you restore on a different computer that was never synced with the device, you will be able to unlock the device for use and remove the passcode, but your data will not be present.
Currently Being ModeratedJan 25, 2013 9:57 AM (in response to cutitcountrygrl)
You will probably have to restore using recovery mode. See: http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1808
After your iPad is in Recovery Mode you can restore it on any computer with the latest iTunes.