Currently Being ModeratedFeb 10, 2013 11:39 AM (in response to Mono Ab)
Automatic downloads of apps, music and books can only take place on devices that are all using the same Apple ID. You have to enable it in the settings on all devices as well.
Settings>iTunes & App Stores>Automatic Downloads>On....Music, apps, books. You have to turn it on in the settings on all of the devices that are using the same ID.
How your wife is seeing your photos if she is using another Apple ID is beyond me, unless you are using a shared Photo Stream with her iPad.