Q: im trying to reset my nephew ipod touch. the screen says ipod is disabled connect to itunes and it will not show up in the itunes window cause it has a pass code and that wont display can someone help thx

If You Are Locked Out, Have Forgotten Your Passcode, or Just Need to Restore Your Device

     If you have forgotten your Restrictions code, then follow the instructions

     below but DO NOT restore any previous backup. If you do then you will

     simply be restoring the old Restrictions code you have forgotten. This

     same warning applies if you need to restore a clean system.

A Complete Guide to Restore or Recover Your iDevice (if You Forget Your Passcode)

If you need to restore your device or ff you cannot remember the passcode, then you will need to restore your device using the computer with which you last synced it. This allows you to reset your passcode and re-sync the data from the device (or restore from a backup). If you restore on a different computer that was never synced with the device, you will be able to unlock the device for use and remove the passcode, but your data will not be present. Refer to Updating and restoring iPhone, iPad and iPod touch software.

Try restoring the iOS device if backing up and erasing all content and settings doesn't resolve the issue. Using iTunes to restore iOS devices is part of standard isolation troubleshooting. Restoring your device will delete all data and content, including songs, videos, contacts, photos, and calendar information, and will restore all settings to their factory condition.

Before restoring your iOS device, Apple recommends that you either sync with iTunes to transfer any purchases you have made, or back up new data (data acquired after your last sync). If you have movie rentals on the device, see iTunes Store movie rental usage rights in the United States before restoring.

Follow these steps to restore your device:

If you are restoring to fix a forgotten Restrictions Code or as a New device, then skip Step 9 and restore as New.

that didnt help me

Disabled

Place the iOS device in Recovery Mode and then connect to your computer and restore via iTunes. The iPod will be erased.

iOS: Forgot passcode or device disabled

If recovery mode does not work try DFU mode.                        

How to put iPod touch / iPhone into DFU mode « Karthik's scribblings        

For how to restore:                                                             

iTunes: Restoring iOS software

To restore from backup see:

iOS: Back up and restore your iOS device with iCloud or iTunes       

If you restore from iCloud backup the apps will be automatically downloaded. If you restore from iTunes backup the apps and music have to be in the iTunes library since synced media like apps and music are not included in the backup of the iOS device that iTunes makes.

You can redownload most iTunes purchases by:                         

Downloading past purchases from the App Store, iBookstore, and iTunes Store        

If problem what happens or does not happen and when in the instructions? When you successfully get the iPod in recovery mode and connect to computer iTunes should say it found an iPod in recovery mode.

Next try on another computer

Or

If you previously turned on FIndMyiPod on the iPod in Settings>iCloud and wifi is on and connected go to iCloud: Find My iPhone, sign in and go to FIndMyiPhone and use Remote Wipe to erase the contents of your device. If you have been using iCloud to back up, you may be able to restore the most recent backup to reset the passcode after the device has been erased.

You can also wipe the iOS device by installing the FindMyiPhone app on another iOS device and using that app to wipe the device.