Currently Being ModeratedFeb 25, 2013 7:09 PM (in response to magmillette)
Get her a free email address that is just used for iMessage.
Using FaceTime http://support.apple.com/kb/ht4319
Troubleshooting FaceTime http://support.apple.com/kb/TS3367
The Complete Guide to FaceTime + iMessage: Setup, Use, and Troubleshooting
Troubleshooting FaceTime and iMessage activation
Using FaceTime and iMessage behind a firewall
iOS: About Messages
Set up iMessage
Setting Up Multiple iOS Devices for iMessage and Facetime
FaceTime and iMessage not accepting Apple ID password
Unable to use FaceTime and iMessage with my apple ID
For non-Apple devices, check out the TextFree app https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/text-free-textfree-sms-real/id399355755?mt=8
Currently Being ModeratedFeb 25, 2013 7:13 PM (in response to magmillette)
You used her computer to do the update, didn't you? That's OK, she should be keepting tabs on you anyway, to make sure you're only talking to acceptable boys.