Currently Being ModeratedApr 2, 2013 8:11 AM (in response to Twegian)
While your phone is connected to your computer, in iTunes on your computer, select the phone, then Music in the top bar, check "Sync Music, " check "Selected Playlists, Artists, Albums, and Genres." That will stop it from syncing your entire library and will only sync whatever you've checked.
Currently Being ModeratedApr 2, 2013 8:57 AM (in response to roma1625)
that did not help as nothing ( as in everything was unchecked) was selected at all to begin with...but rebooting the entire computer, and itunes changed something and now I have a 'restored' clean slate to work with. Thanks for the suggestion though