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Apple TV: Pairing and unpairing the Apple Remote
You can press and hold the Menu and Next/Fast-forward buttons on the white Apple Remote, or hold the Menu and right buttons on the aluminum Apple Remote, for 6 seconds to pair.
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it seems as if the remote is pairing because the yellow light is blinking and responding to the remote. But the only thing the remotes control is the volume of my tv (i have no clue how this happened) and it still says "your apple tv is not connected to the network) and I cannot scroll with the remote to connect it to the network!!!
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