Q: How do I transfer my music not on itunes+ my photos from my iPhone to my iPad?

You need to go via your computer's iTunes for the music, only iTunes purchased music will potentially show on your iPad (e.g. in the Purchased tab in iTunes store app) for redownloading on it. If you don't still have the music in your computer's iTunes library, nor on your backup of your library that you can copy it into your iTunes library from, then there are some programs listed half-way down this page which should be able to copy them back from your phone : Recover your iTunes library from your iPod or iOS device

For your photos, how did the get on the phone ? If synced from your computer then you sync them to your iPad in the same way. If taken with the phone then have you been using Photo Stream, and they still in it and show in your iPad's Photos app (assuming that you are using the same iCloud account on both). Or copy them to your computer (you should take a backup copy of any that you don't want to lose) and sync them to your iPad : Import photos and videos from your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch to your Mac or Windows PC - Apple Support and Sync photos to your iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch in iTunes - Apple Support.