Hi Steve!
I just bumped into your thread and I'm hoping that for now, at least, you still haven't managed todisconnect your PSU harness at the logic board. Unless you're bench testing the PSU with a resistance connected to the wiring, it's bad practice to energize it with the harness disconnected. Doing so can burn out the PSU in a very short amount of time.
Test the PSU using the link that Don kindly provided, but do so with the PSU installed and connected to the logic board. Insert the voltmeter probes into the wire side of the connector at the logic board, inserting them into the appropriate wire sockets right alongside the wires. Toward the end of each wire is a metal pin connector which you'll want to insure to make contact with. (Please note that after each test in the linked testing procedure, Apple advises to retest if you don't get a reading the first time. I take this as a double check to insure that probe to pin contact was made.)
I'd start by using the voltmeter set to AC voltage and first test for normal line voltage at the wall receptacle. If normal, connect your power cord to it and test for line voltage at the female end of the cord. If normal, connect the power cord into the Mac, switch the meter to DC voltage, open the side door, and insert the positive (red) probe into pin socket #22, which should be the white wire at the end of the connector for your Mac model. Insert the negative (black) probe alongside pin socket #11, which should be the black wire at the same end of the connector, just across from #22. This should produce a reading of +28 volts, which is the required trickle charge output for an energized power supply on a Gigabit Ethernet or Digital Audio Mac. If the reading is zero, retest to insure your probes indeed made good contact. If your probes are thick or you're unsure that you made metal to metal contact, you might use two straightened paper clips (much thinner) to insert alongside the wires, being careful not to touch them to each other or to touch both of them at the same time with a single probe, creating a short circuit. Then probe the protruding paper clips. If the reading is then still zero, the PSU is defective.
Regarding removing the connector... There's a plastic protrusion at the middle of the backside of the connector which you must press in near the top of the connector to release it from where it latches on a mating part just above the logic board. The harness connector should then pull straight up and off. If it's stubbornly stuck, then I'd first completely de-energize the Mac by unplugging the power cable, removing the internal battery, depressing the front power button for a few seconds, and then allowing the tower to sit for thirty minutes or so to insure that the logic board capacitors are discharged. Then try using a pair of pliers to grasp and carefully pull upward on the connector while depressing the top of the latch I spoke about. That should help you free it. If it still won't loosen, you might try spraying an aerosol dielectric electronics cleaner into the connector, wait a minute or so, then try the pliers again. If, instead, the problem is that the latch doesn't release at the bottom, try inserting a small tool between the connector body and the latch and gently pry the latch outward at the bottom just a tad. It only needs to move less than an eighth of an inch to release it. Then pull the connector straight upward.
Gary