I have the Motorola HF850 Car Kit, and had the same problem of being able to pair , but I could not hear or be heard when connecting. I was talking with an Apple support Tech about another issue and brought up the problem. I was told to reset Network Settings. To do this go in to Settings-General-Reset-Reset Network Settings. This has worked but, I use the phone one or two times and it goes back to the same condition. I then reset again, and it works one or two times. It seems it should be fixable. Lets hope Apple responds.