My stripes are also missing, except they show up a little bit in the shadow of the window with focus some times --- if you look below and/or to the right of the window with focus, there is a "shadow" about 1/2 inch thick. If the finder window happens to lie partly in this shadow strip, the stripes in the finder window appear only in this shadowed strip. But outside of the shadowed area they do not appear. It's rather strange.
I tried turning on and off the stripes using the hint from this article:
http://www.macworld.com/article/132443/2008/03/leopardsurvival1.html
For me this does turn off the stripes in the shadowed area, but only in that area.
Outside of that area I get no stripes at all with either setting.