Hi Mike ... after 2.5 hours on the phone with apple we got it figured out. I was never able to connect using WiFi for my mail. So my outgoing client was changed to a server using EDGE. I have to turn off the WiFi in order to get mail. Everything works the same. But if I want to use WiFi (for the iTunes store), I have to turn it back on. I could't use the settings you recommended because I have an old wideopenwest account not a wowway account. Wowway won't switch me over without canceling my old account and starting a new one. We'd lose out email addresses. Go figure.
Thanks for the response though.
Lisa