Hello Jan,
Didn't mean to leave you adrift. Looks like you've managed to survive, amd in good company at that!
If you're a bookie, you might want to get a copy of 'Upgrading and Fixing Macs for Dummies'. I cut my teeth on that volume; it made everything much simpler. (But you won't need it for this)
What you're about to do is one of the more simple operations in upgrading a Mac; it comprises maybe half a dozen simple steps. Since you haven't done it before, of course, you will wonder if each step is correct. It's easy to agonise over every screw; everybody does it his first time out.
I found it helps to open up the Mac before an operation (maybe even a day ahead of time), and just stare at its insides. It helps if you can name and point to all the players (scorecard optional). Any Mac I'm working on gets used to running with its side down; it just seems more like family that way.
If (or since) you're taking the old drive out, you may find it hard to locate the securing screw; said screw should be at the centre of the leading edge of the tray or sled the drive sits on, almost entirely obscured by the flat ribbon from the drive to the bus. You will most likely have to remove the ribbon to see and then to remove the small screw; if you're lucky, there will be an attached tab under the ribbon that you can pull and wiggle until the ribbon gives up and separates (they can be quite stubborn sometimes).
You can then remove the ribbon, unscrew the Very Small Screw, and remove the old drive with its sled still attached. There should be four more screws that secure the drive to the sled, but now that it's out those will be obvious.
To install, simply reverse the procedure, as they say.
You will need screwdrivers, of course, mostly Phillips head, but anybody who lives next to the wilderness should have a good selection.
If you intend to do this sort of thing a lot, invest $10-15 in a 'hook and pick' set at your local auto parts or hardware store; it makes the taking apart of recalcitrant Macs much easier. (Your dentist uses the same sort of pick regularly in his work.)
One of the most difficult parts is knowing just how hard to tighten everything; the book is likely to say "finger tight" plus one quarter turn, which I guess is a close approximation. Firm but don't force.
Installing the controller card is a similar question of "feel". It should - with a bit of wiggling - fit easily into its PCI slot. When you're convinced it's located properly in its home, lean on it with the heel of your hand to make sure it's seated firmly.
Just a couple of things I thought of that might smooth the way. You'll be doing this with your eyes closed before long.
Regards ..... Jon