Barney is completely correct. I ran a few tests through Apple Mail and Outlook, composing in various different ways and sending with both. The results are just a disaster. The bottom line is that you are never going to get an e-mail to display exactly the same way you composed it. Even if you installed Windows and used Outlook, you could still pick some non-default font and the sender would see it differently. Plus, as others have said, there are any number of other systems that are going to delete or rearrange your message before the recipient ever sees it.
Try your best, but don't assume anything. If you must have it in a particular format, use PDF. That, at least, is much easier to do on a Mac.
Now, for those that are interested, here are the ugly details...
Apple Mail in Leopard and the accompanying documentation makes frequent references to "Rich Text". This is not the "text/richtext" or "text/enriched" format as specified in the the MIME e-mail RFCs (See
RFC 2045 for one example, out of many.) It is just an HTML attachment inside your message. For the record, anything other than a "Plain Text" e-mail message is just a sequence of attachments. An e-mail client is free to decide what to do with all those attachments and they can display them inline (as with HTML and images) or represent them as an attachment (via a download link or icon). But internally, they are all the same thing.
Outlook give you the option of creating either "Rich Text" or "HTML" messages. But, in fact, they are lying to you. Regardless of which one you choose, your "rich" messages are in HTML. I checked this inside my Mac's POP e-mail server just to make sure Apple Mail didn't convert something on the fly.
The "Rich Text" HTML that Apple Mail creates is just awful. It uses deprecated font tags instead of style sheets. It only includes the specific font you used and no fallback fonts like "serif" or "sans-serif". This would help a great deal.
On the bright side, I still think Apple Mail is a very powerful and competent e-mail client. The bad HTML is generates is clearly labeled "webkit", so that is where the problem is. I bet Apple Mail could still compose true MIME richtext if you knew how to enable it. I send a true "richtext" message and received it using both Outlook and Apple Mail. Outlook completely failed and displayed only the plain text alternative with a bunch of attachments. Apple Mail properly displayed the richtext and the appropriate attachments inline. Regardless of market share, Apple Mail is a fundamentally better e-mail client - and I've proved it!
From what I have seen so far, I could (and will) write two bugs against Apple Mail.
1) Apple Mail uses the deprecated "font" tag instead of style sheets.
2) Apple Mail doesn't provide alternate fonts in font tags. If I compose a message in Palatino, it shouldn't just say face="Palatino" or font-family: Palatino, it should say font-family: Palatino, serif. At least get the serifs right.