took me to the macromedia website where i downloaded it, and it stopped working after that. And I am not using any 3rd part Safari items .
Strange. You ought to be DL Flash from an Adobe site.
Let's take a step-back. Go to your Finder: HD>Library>Internet Plug-ins folder. You ought to have these two files:
Flash Player.plugin] and
flashplayer.xpt. If not, check the User Account Library>Internet Plug-ins folder. If no go there, then you can download the most recent version of Flash from
this Adobe site. After the install is complete, Safari automatically opens confirming the plug-ins was installed.
Next, quit Safari. Then go to your Utilities folder>Disk Utility. Open the app., highlight your HD on the left, then "repair permissions". When complete, restart Safari and try a Flash site.