Hello SDJR,
I lost again several hours trying to get iCal to work.
I reinstalled the whole Mac system fresh. iCal seemed to work for a few hours,
but then it was totally messed up again as before.
Now I discovered a very strange new behavior: I deleted all the old calenders,
this funny p file (never discovered what that does) as they had told me in the Apple Store.
After a few hours mysteriously the old deleted calenders appeared again, I deleted them,
they came back like a YoYo. And all the messy behavior with lost appointments, spurious "ghost" appointments etc is back.
This iCal - at least on my computer - seems to keep the DNA about how to return to messy behavior, and also lots of corrupted old calenders in some secret cache. So even if I delete
all the calenders and files they told me to delete in the Apple Store to get a fresh clean virgin iCal start - then iCal will get these deleted files back from some secret hidden cache somewhere, which the Apple Store does not know about.
Very strange and extremely frustrating and time wasting. I run a consulting firm in Tokyo, and this is really costing me money...
I used to use Palm-Pilot in the past - there was never never any problem like that. Palm Pilot really worked very very well. The Palm Pilot calender software both on Palm and on Mac seem to have been debugged much much better than iCal. Maybe the Apple iCal people should hire some advisors from the Palm Pilot team and get their advice how to fix iCal.