Hi dradams!
If I understand this thread correctly, your problem if with audio encoding?
Disregard any messages that iDVD is not responding. It is. Do not force quit.
Encoding audio is the slowest part of rendering, and can take many hours. Great patience, even an intermittent alternative hobby, is called for.
Make sure no other application is running, make sure you have not set the hard disk to go to sleep and that the screen saver will not come on. Leave it overnight, or have a 36 hole game of golf.
Sooner or later iDVD will finish!
Apple confirms the foregoing in this Knowledge Base Article:
http://support.apple.com/kb/TS2316
Not all of that applies in your case. You don't say what the source of the audio was. If it was
purchased tracks in iTunes then, because of DRM copy protection it will not work in iDVD UNTIL you have gone through the standard work-around, which is:
Select the tracks in iTunes that you wish to use. Burn them to a CD. Re-import those tracks from that CD back into iTunes and save them as AIFF files. Only use those new tracks in iDVD.
Now they will work flawlessly, but like I said at the beginning, audio rendering takes longer than video rendering!