how to find my password.

If you forget your passcode, you must restore the iPod touch software. Here are the instructions: http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1414.

Your settings will be restored from your backup and iTunes will reload all your music, videos and apps. You won't lose anything but some time.

hey every time i try to do that it keeps saying i need the passcode to unlock first and it wont connect to Itunes

Try this: http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1808