Currently, the CD's I rip are automatically added to my library and it adds the extra step of me having to find the songs in iTunes and delete them because once the actual files are trashed, iTunes keeps them in the library with the little Exclamation point
Why not simply delete them with iTunes and the hard drive in one step instead of going to the Finder, finding the files, deleting them, going back to iTunes, finding the songs, then deleting them?
See this ->
RIP to iPod
"Rips each enabled (checkmarked) CD track to iTunes and immediately copies it to iPod, deletes the file, and removes the track from the iTunes library, giving the appearance of seamless CD-to-iPod importing. You can also change your encoder on-the-fly and your Preferences-set encoder will be restored after the rip. Requires that iPod be set to "Manually manage music and videos". iPods set to sync are ignored."