I'd like to be able to see the hidden files in the Finder so that I (hopefully) could select them and delete them before transferring the files to my digital photo frame.
When you saw and deleted them using Terminal, were they present on your HD, or did you only look at the files already transferred to the USB photo frame device?
The hidden "._" files are "resource fork" files, and when you make hidden files visible in Finder you might find that they exist only on the USB device, having been created there by the transfer process itself - see:
*Apple Double Format Creates File Name With the Prefix '._'*
http://support.apple.com/kb/TA20578?viewlocale=en_US
Also take a look at [Blue Harvest|http://www.zeroonetwenty.com/blueharvest].
They don't cause a problem, but do take up space.
How much space? If not excessive, then leaving them alone would also be an option!