I turned off junk filtering and now the reply messages seem to be getting through postfix, but they are still not ending up in the event senders inbox. They seem to disappear. Here's the log.. I guess I need to look in the dovecot logs but haven't found them yet..
Dec 7 17:48:35 home postfix/cleanup[78023]: 945FB1C6687: message-id=<84952681-DFB8-42F7-A076-CCB37112EBA5@otherdomain.com>
Dec 7 17:48:35 home postfix/smtpd[78026]: disconnect from localhost[127.0.0.1]
Dec 7 17:48:35 home postfix/qmgr[77954]: 945FB1C6687: from=<ben@otherdomain.com>, size=216101, nrcpt=1 (queue active)
Dec 7 17:48:35 home postfix/smtp[78024]: 430EC1C6679: to=<com.apple.calendarserver+b7b6a963-b39f-472d-bf47-8d58c9b31f3b@mydomain.com> , relay=127.0.0.1[127.0.0.1]:10024, delay=0.35, delays=0.19/0/0.01/0.16, dsn=2.0.0, status=sent (250 2.0.0 Ok: queued as 945FB1C6687)
Dec 7 17:48:35 home postfix/qmgr[77954]: 430EC1C6679: removed
Dec 7 17:48:35 home postfix/pipe[78041]: 945FB1C6687: to=<com.apple.calendarserver+b7b6a963-b39f-472d-bf47-8d58c9b31f3b@mydomain.com> , relay=dovecot, delay=0.19, delays=0.01/0.03/0/0.14, dsn=2.0.0, status=sent (delivered via dovecot service)
Dec 7 17:48:35 home postfix/qmgr[77954]: 945FB1C6687: removed
Message was edited by: polyevolver54