Well, this one is definitely taking some time and there really shouldn't be a reason why wrapping up another PHP version SHOULD take this long. I mean, it's not integrally tied to any other system components (that I know of). If it were, the manual build which I did probably would have screwed something, which it did not.
I know that OS X server isn't the most up-to-date system in terms of the underlying component software and generally speaking, I don't think that's a horrible thing. I think there's probably as much risk in running the latest and greatest (perhaps more) as there is in running a few revisions behind the bleeding edge. However, when it comes to something like this, I have to agree that the inability to simply roll up a patch and get it out the door in short order, is a big problem. If I didn't know how to roll my own PHP, I would have been in a WORLD of HURT over this issue.
Personally, I did everything I possibly could to make Apple aware of this issue: I posted on this forum, reported the issue to bugs.apple.com, and asked a server support rep to escalate the problem to engineering. In each case, I gave a SPECIFIC and detailed description of the issue, even including a reference to the PHP bug number. It has been several weeks now and there has been no response.
That, my friends, is a problem.