Apple will have to improve SSD support sooner rather than later - after all, they're selling SSDs as BTO option, and they will become more important. I imagine that right now, they sell less than 1% of their machines with SSDs... maybe even less than 0.1% - only Apple knows but if the figure is very small, maybe they don't care so much about putting resources towards it.
In addition, SSD technology is a bit of a moving target. Only recently have SSDs even supported TRIM.
I'd advise against making heavy modifications to the system just to reduce writes. I need Spotlight - I use it all the time. I also need journalling and journalling information is used by TimeMachine to figure out differences (I think) so it's crucial that it's enabled. I don't think it makes sense to trade functionality for "less writes".
Apple will at some point, maybe in 1 or 2 years, have full SSD support and the system itself will have all kinds of smarts to deal with SSDs properly. Until then, I'd rather have a 50% degraded performance than missing features. A 50% SSD is still a lot faster than a HD. At least the X-25 is...