You cannot delete the photo app from the phone. You cannot delete any of the factory applications. One of a couple of things happened. Either you moved it to another home screen, or a software glitch has hedden it. The first thing to try is a reset to the phone. Hold down the home and power button together until you see the Apple logo and then release, ignoring the slide to power off screen. If that doesn't restore it, then go to settings, general, reset, and then reset home screen layout.
Also, pictures in the camera roll are not in the photo app. Photos in the photo app, the photo library are put there by a sync from the comptuer to the iPhone through iTunes. They are pictures on your computer that you have synced to the iPhone. Pictures in the camera roll are ones that you have either taken with the iPhone, saved from an email or MMS or saved off the Internet. Those pictures need to be imported to the computer as soon as possible so you can save them. Keeping them in the camera roll without importing risks losing them if something were to happen to the iPhone. Use whatever photo importing software that you would use for a digital camera and import the photos.