Hey all,
I've been posting in this monster thread:
http://discussions.apple.com/thread.jspa?messageID=11907554
The issues seem related to me, even though some people get the freeze without an external monitor, and some only with an external monitor.
I discovered something interesting about my laptop after it "freezes:"
The computer is not truly frozen. I turned on rlogin on my computer, plugged in the external monitor, and waited for it to break. Then I went over to another computer and SSHed into my machine. Everything was working fine remotely. So somehow, it's just the displays that are being affected.
Anyway, I took up the issue with AppleCare again, and when they saw that I had been to the Apple Store twice, they believed that I had a problem. The first rep asked if I wanted to send to a depot or exchange the machine, I said exchange b/c I was afraid the depot would not be able to reproduce the problem. So, I got bumped to a person higher in support, and he was great. He worked with me very carefully on the issue, and I pointed him to the photos that I took and put up on photobucket. He sent over the details and photos to Apple engineers. I got a call back from him the next day saying that they have no idea what the problem is and that they want the machine back for an "autopsy." Therefore, I'm getting an exchange. My machine is custom-built, so this will take a little longer than just a simple repair, but I don't mind the wait.
My advice is to be patient and nice with your AppleCare reps, it will get you a lot farther. Nevertheless, stay firm in what you want; you deserve to get a laptop that works. Good luck all.