Your phone is disabled connect to itunes

Once it's disabled, your only option is to restore the phone.

See this article: If you forgot the passcode for your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, or your device is disabled

It doesn't matter whether you know the password or not. Once it's disabled, the ONLY option is to restore the phone.

If you've been backing it up to iCloud or iTunes on a regular basis, then you shouldn't suffer much if any data loss.

If it's not backed up, you've just learned a valuable lesson about the importance of backing up your data.