I can’t change country on my iPad, I followed the steps and it keep telling me that you can’t change

Are you trying to change the App Store/iTunes region store? If so, you need a zero account balance and you need to cancel all your subscriptions. If you have cancelled all subscriptions, but some haven’t expired, contact iTunes Support. You need a credit card issued by a bank in the country the store is in, and you need a billing address in that country. If you have an account balance, either buy something more expensive and pay the balance with a credit card or contact iTunes Support and ask them to zero balance your account.

Purchases - View, change, or cancel your subscriptions

Purchases - Subscriptions not billed through Apple 

Region - Change your iTunes Store, iBooks Store, or App Store country or region

If necessary, contact iTunes Support. Either use the form or scroll to the bottom of the page in the 2nd link. Follow through the screens to get a chat or telephone option. 

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how do i zero my balance as i don't have a card for the country i was registered in anymore. I am in a new country but can't do anything as it won't change my country or accept this country card.

Contact iTunes Support in your new country and ask them to remove the balance from the account