If somebody steals your Airpods and you want them disabled then Apple would have to scan every device in existence to see if they were connected there in order to disable them. Airpods do not connect directly to the Internet, they connect to hardware and all hardware would have to be scanned, or the Airpods themselves would have to have a way of talking through any hardware to Apple to inquire, "Hey, here I am, am I okay to work here?" And what if the Airpods refused to work until they could connect? I am frequently in locations for long periods where I have no connection to the Internet. I would not want to have a set of Airpods that refused to work because they could not make a daily call-home (home = Apple) to check in.
Then what if somebody gives a spouse a set of Airpods, and that spouse later has to hide from the the first one because of abuse, and the first person uses Find My to track the second person or to disable their hardware?
Then, frankly, does a company want to take on responsibility for performing police actions and having to adjudicate all the details of every ownership dispute? Apple has basically drawn the lines where it is willing to be involved which is mostly providing self-help services for dealing with unintentionally misplaced devices.