Find My notifies other that you're watching

The Find My app notifies others when you've set it to notify you when they've left or arrive at a location. At first that might not seem like a big deal, unless you're a parent. If you've set all phones to allow following of your kids, they need to know that you may be watching. But now, they'll know when you're NOT watching when they leave or arrive somewhere. That is UNACCEPTABLE and strips parents of their ability to more effectively parent.

What's next, an Apple web cam that tells thieves when the camera can't see them?

Is there a way to bypass those notifications?