My iPhone 11 Plays Music Automatically

I found several answers here:

https://smartphones.gadgethacks.com/how-to/same-song-starts-playing-your-car-when-connecting-your-iphone-avoid-problem-with-these-6-tips-0186279/

I don't want to have to take additional action before I connect the phone or after I connect the phone. I just want to connect my phone and that's it.

Thank you for your response but this has happened with two different cars that I've owned, one from Honda and one from Nissan. There are also many threads from others who have had the same issue, one of which drove a Subaru. This is not an issue with my Honda's car audio and there are many Honda owners with the same issue:

https://ask.metafilter.com/310466/Stop-my-Honda-Bluetooth-iTunes-autoplay

https://www.odyclub.com/threads/anyone-know-how-to-disable-bluetooth-autoplay.313249/

https://talk.macpowerusers.com/t/music-automatically-starts-when-my-phone-connects-to-my-subaru-forrester-via-ipod-link-and-bluetooth/3002 (Subaru)

I will continue to look for a viable solution. The Honda service center at my dealership will not know how to fix it.