Turn off contacts in the iOS 13 Share Sheet

I can’t believe this is a thing. I’ve been stressing over this for weeks. Is there a solution yet?

Come on, Apple, nobody is sending selfies, pictures of cats or crass jokes over iMessage and I assure you they won’t start doing it because of this!

Also, the last 3 contacts messaged aren’t necessarily relevant. iMessage is for moms and bosses, precisely the people you don’t want to share “that” with.

At least there should be the option to remove the people from the top row, other than deleting the whole message history.

It's too easy to make a mistake. I don't want parents, professional contacts, etc... anywhere near my contact share choices. Also it occupies useful and precious screen real-estate for a feature and contacts we don't want.

Even if the feature was left on, it makes no sense that Apple chooses for the user which contacts show in their "hotlist" based on some hidden algorithm.

AnaSultana wrote:

Come on, Apple, nobody is sending selfies, pictures of cats or crass jokes over iMessage and I assure you they won’t start doing it because of this!

Of course they are!

lso, the last 3 contacts messaged aren’t necessarily relevant. iMessage is for moms and bosses, precisely the people you don’t want to share “that” with.

Are you saying people only use iMessages to send serious messages to their parents and their bosses? Really, no, that's not true.

t least there should be the option to remove the people from the top row, other than deleting the whole message history.

So, tell Apple:

Product Feedback - Apple

William Kucharski wrote:

Given that when you tap on a contact you still have to tap the send icon in whatever editor opens, how does this cause stress?

But that would mean taking personal responsibility!

1. Oh, sorry, I should have mentioned the whole world outside the US. The apps they primarily use do not include iMessage. Even if they did, the contacts they usually message aren’t the ones suggested by this change, that is just useless, no matter how you look at it. Sure, I can use a key to open a bottle, but WHY?
2. It is for most country outside US. I’m not saying people use iMessage for EXCLUSIVELY messaging mothers and bosses with serious content, just that it is MORE LIKELY that they do.
3. I did. Thank you for your thoughtful instructions.

As for responsibility, rest assured that I am careful what buttons I press, even more so after updating. Apple will NOT be sued because of me potentially sharing my cat’s poopy butthole with grandma. It’s just that I, together with the substantial number of people complaining about this issue, would like to enter the house through the door. It’s not that we will not use the window, or blame someone else that we broke our leg climbing through the window. We won’t judge people who want to use the window exclusively. Knock yourselves out. But I would rather have the option to use the old fashioned door.

TL;DR I don’t see why users should be extra careful for an option that is not useful.

If you tap a contact photo and then you tap send, what happens can't be helped, it was a conscious decision you made.

You think the option is not useful; 99% of the time I send a message or email, the recipient is one of the listed contacts so it saves me a lot of time and effort.

File feedback with Apple at the link above if you feel that strongly, but I am quite happy with the change, it saves me a lot of taps daily.

Oh, my bad, must have misread all the other opinions on this matter. If only I took the time to actually understand what people meant instead of bashing everyone that doesn’t agree. If only I had commented on how this should be an option, not an imposition, so everyone could be happy, because not everyone is in US. If only I had thought to give feedback to Apple while also expressing my thoughts here. Oh, wait...

AnaSultana wrote:

2. It is for most country outside US. I’m not saying people use iMessage for EXCLUSIVELY messaging mothers and bosses with serious content, just that it is MORE LIKELY that they do.

How do you know that? Do you have data that supports that? Or are you just assuming how you use iMessages is how most people do?

AnaSultana wrote:

Oh, my bad, must have misread all the other opinions on this matter. If only I took the time to actually understand what people meant instead of bashing everyone that doesn’t agree. If only I had commented on how this should be an option, not an imposition, so everyone could be happy, because not everyone is in US.

I'm really not sure why you think what country anyone is in is relevant to this discussion.

You have been told, repeatedly, that no one here can make the changes you want. You have been told, repeatedly, how to make Apple aware of your opinions on the matter.

Well, some people out there that they simply don’t want to have [contacts] in the first/top part of the share sheet on some apps (such as Safari, Garageband, etc) because they are using apps for their own purpose and thus some purposely would like to have Contacts as a last part on a share sheet just to not scrolling up down unnecessarily.

I hope Apple will let us customize the share sheet upon users defined priority lists or given the disability feature for system predefined category list as soon as possible.

zed_0xff wrote:

https://ios.gadgethacks.com/how-to/remove-contacts-from-share-sheet-ios-13-0207222/

Yes, deleting the conversation threads with people has been discussed. It is, at best, a work around.

HzKidd wrote:

I hope Apple will let us customize the share sheet upon users defined priority lists or given the disability feature for system predefined category list as soon as possible.

I hope you've let Apple know that's what you'd like to see.

Product Feedback - Apple

I accidentally pressed on Telegram icon from that share sheet and instantly shared important information to some person I never intended to. No second confirmation, just posted without my intention.This is bad, very bad.

lcascio wrote:

Yeah I don't know why Apple would thinks its a great feature to automatically determine for us whom it thinks we want to share personal information with.

Maybe because Apple has always worked on the assumption that they know better than you what features you should have. It's the way Apple has worked since the beginning.

lcascio wrote:

Yeah I don't know why Apple would thinks its a great feature to automatically determine for us whom it thinks we want to share personal information with.

They also aren't automatically determining who you want to share information with, they are making guesses based upon who you've shared information or messages with in the past - a perfectly reasonable assumption.