Similar experience here. I run four machines;
- Macbook (On Catalina and behaving itself)
- Macbook Pro (Still on Mojave and still behaving itself)
- Mac Mini (Still on Mojave and still behaving itself. Although HD running very very slow for some reason I've not determined yet)
unfortunately my main workhorse is
- Mac Pro (iBin) which was upgraded to Catalina last year
The Mac Pro also initially saw the reluctance to come out of sleep. As you say, stop it sleeping and problem avoided. Now I just see the Windows Server / Display hanging issue. Which dropped to a couple of times a day and now seems to becoming more frequent with the latest updates.
It doesn't appear to be CPU load related (For example I can run video encodes in Handbrake no problem). Similarly moving large files across a GB network hasn't caused an issue.
I'd love to see something back from Apple on this. Anything. As you say bugs happen. Happy to test solutions / participate in tracking the issue down and discovering the poisoned recipe.
I've swapped screens, USB devices, clean reinstall ... starting to run out of possibilities to fiddle with.
Thought for a moment I'd spotted a pattern trying to work this morning (As per previous message, mail/safari/excel all day so far). As I'd experienced crashing at 35-45 mins consistently. However as I type this I reach 60 mins uptime. So another theory gone.
I could really do with a hardware upgrade but with people reporting similar issues on new kit there's no way I can throw £/$/€6k + without some confidence it'll work.