how do I turn off haptic touch on my iphone SE?

Hi

My iphone SE got updated to iOS 13.2 and this brought an abominable new (for me) feature where pressing an icon gives a long menu where I don’t easily find what I‘m looking for. Basically I am spoiled with the old way where you only got an x to remove an app from your phone. that is all I need. Is there a way to revert to this behaviour? My phone‘s screen is not like ipads or newer iphones. nothing is cool in this 13.2 iOS for the small screen not even the new redesigned share menu which is not efficient anymore. again hard to find and do something. someone on an ipad maybe finds joy seeing and using something like this but for me it’s a pain. At this point I think either 13.2 is not for iphone SE or viceversa. Another noticed thing I cannot long press to place the cursor somewhere inside a word it just keeps the word selected. I tried going back to 12.4.1 version but it doesn’t work. Any attempt made with iTunes on 2 different Windows 10 computers gives some 3194, 3600 named errors.

At this point I am just asking is there a toggle for this haptic or 3d touch(I don’t know for sure what is called)? Thanks