Backing Up iPhone & iPad
Did Apple change Music/iTunes to not let you back up your iPhone and or iPad to the computer? You can ONLY use iCloud now?
The Device icon will not show up.
iPhone XR
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With a Mac running Catalina, you use Finder, not Music, to backup an iPhone or iPad. See the instructions in How to back up your iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch - Apple Support