A little more to my situation. I'm technical support for my parents. I set up and maintain their phones, wifi, security cameras, smart tv, ect.. We buy our phones at the same time, so if I'm not around and they have a problem, it's easier for me to remotely help them because we all have the same model. I usually update them at the same time.
So we have a little cluster. If something goes wrong with one phone, I know it's likely an individual unit problem.
All three phones were performing optimally before ios 13. They all reacted the same to ios 13. In the same manner. At the same time. One is not worse or better than the others. All suffered radically declining battery performance.
Here's another thing. With all three, about one day every couple weeks, the batteries perform perfectly. No rapid drain, no heating, nothing. It doesn't last the whole day though.
Now tell me there's no connection.
I've been talking with the Apple senior advisor today. I'm sending her my parent's logs. This should be interesting.