Cannot sync iPhones with Mac since latest Catalina and iOS updates
We have a Mac running the latest Catalina (10.15.4), an iPhone 8 running iOS 13.4 and an iPhone 6 running iOS 12.4.6. We connect the iPhones to the Mac via USB cable to sync photos and videos, in both directions. We choose not to use iCloud for this purpose as we consider it insecure, not so much because of possible hacking as from the threat posed by little fingers, as our grandchildren often play with our iPhones.
Since the latest Catalina and iOS updates, it has become impossible to do this sync. As soon as we connect either iPhone, it starts repeatedly beeping. If we have the corresponding Mac Finder window open, then it starts flashing and displaying warning messages (see the pasted image below). If we have the Mac Photos app open, then it keeps flickering between the Photos pseudo-folder and the Device pseudo-folder. We have not discovered any way out of this loop.
Has anyone else experienced this problem? Does anyone have any suggestions for how to solve it?
Thanks
iMac 27", macOS 10.15