Hello Riverside_Guy,
I understand your aren't getting video or audio when on a FaceTime call and you're also seeing an alert telling you it's reconnecting. I'd like to help you out with this.
The issue you're describing can definitely be network related. It sounds like the connection is strong enough to put the call through but not strong enough to maintain the call or produce video. The information in If you can't make a FaceTime call on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch can be helpful, specifically this section:
"If your cellular connection or Wi-Fi network are running slow, or other users are streaming audio or video on the same Wi-Fi network, you might have these issues:
- Connection alerts or unable to connect
- Choppy video calls
- Black screen
- Dropped calls
Make sure that both you and the person that you're calling are using a fast Wi-Fi or cellular connection. If you’re using Wi-Fi, FaceTime requires a broadband connection."
As far as what ISP issue could cause problems with FaceTime, it could be related to your network being behind a firewall as described here: If you use FaceTime and iMessage behind a firewall. Have you tested FaceTime on more than one network? If so, does it occur with every network you've tested? Also, does the other person report that there is no audio or video on their end too?
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Take care.