Screentime Communication and group conversations

I have a complicated situation in that i'm trying to limit my daughter's communication with almost everyone except family and a few friends. I've deleted all her contacts except the ones she is allowed to use. she also isn't allowed any social media. The only way I can do this, is to set screentime to "downtime" all day, every day. Then I can add "contacts" and social media to her blocked apps so that she can't add a contact. (If i use the screentime option at all, it allows her to add contacts - I can't figure out how to block this function during screentime.) I've been tweaking this for days. So i'm satisfied with how i have it set up now with the exception of when she receives a group text and one of her contacts is in the group. She's still getting these even tho I have it set to "contacts only." When i use the option for "specific contacts," it blocks ALL texts, even her "downtime" contacts. Lastly, i keep toggling the "Allow Contact Editing" to OFF and it toggles back on. Argh! I honestly think it's a bug. Any help is appreciated!

(I am also using Circle by Disney to manage her devices, and this allows me to block social media, You tube, etc. as well)

THANK YOU!!

This is really helpful - thank you! Is your daughter under 13? That could be it. I think i can change my daughter's age through her Apple ID. Right now, i have full control of her devices (!). You have a lot more options than i have for my daughter as far as editing contacts, etc. So you are doing this JUST with screentime and not family sharing? I was resisting family sharing because i was so close to getting what i needed with screentime. If I switch from using Downtime to Screentime, I can't control what apps she she's or whether she can make edits to her contacts during Screentime. I can only limit it during Downtime. So strange. Must be her age. I'll try that.

thank you!!!

:)

Thank you so much for your help. I have been in touch with Apple and i think you are right - it's her age. She's 14 so she is treated as an "adult." I have less control over her content. Ugh. And they need her consent if I wanted to change her Apple ID birthdate to make her a minor. And at that point it gets complicated.

But i appreciate your time and trying to help me out! You saved me a lot of continued aggravation. ;)

The model number is MV1D2LL/A and the software is 13.5.1. It's an iPad Air (3rd gen).

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