How do I reset my iPhone if I'm locked out

Here is one posssibility. See Turn off Activation Lock https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201441. All possibilities related to iPhones, iPads, and iPods are covered here except the case of inheritance.

If you are the original owner: If you have iOS 11 or later and your account is protected with two-factor authentication, use get help with a forgotten passcode or disabled device to recover your passcode. Otherwise, use forgot your Apple ID or your Apple ID password to recover the needed credential(s). If you can’t recover the needed credential(s), contact Apple Support and present your original purchase receipt for your device from an authorized Apple seller with the device’s serial number on it. You’ll need a photo ID too. If you can do neither, then the device is useless to you.

If you acquired your device second hand, you usually will need to obtain the needed password from the prior owner or have the prior owner sign out of iCloud; erase the device; and remove it from their device list. If unsuccessful, in the rare case your device came activation locked from an authorized Apple seller, then contact Apple Support and present your original purchase receipt for your device with the device’s serial number on it. You’ll need a photo ID too. If you can do none of the above, then the device is useless to you.

In either case, you can use the suggested support options below if you have the needed receipt. Alternatively, if an Apple Store is open in your area, then you can go there to deal with your problem. In this case, you can make a genius-bar appointment (https://www.apple.com/retail/geniusbar/) if you want.

Get a call from Apple support to help solve your problem using this

link https://getsupport.apple.com/?caller=kbase&PGF=PGF63005&category_id=SC0245&symptom_id=23362

Apple ID Support https://support.apple.com/apple-id

Apple Support Twitter  https://twitter.com/AppleSupport

Apple ID account security for country-specific andregion-specific help https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT204169

Get Support: We’re here to help https://getsupport.apple.com/. Go through the options to find the best support option.

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And see If your Apple ID is locked or disabled https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT204106 "If you or someone else enters your password, security questions, or other account information incorrectly too many times, your Apple ID automatically locks to protect your security and you can't sign in to any Apple services.

If you use two-factor authentication, you need a trusted device or trusted phone number to reset your Apple ID password and unlock your account. If you have a recovery key, you can also use it to help you regain access to your account. …

If you use security questions with your Apple ID, or if you don't have access to a trusted device or phone number, go to iforgot.apple.com. Then you can unlock your account with your existing password or reset your password. After multiple unsuccessful attempts to unlock your account, your Apple ID will remain locked and you can try again the next day.” Eventually you will end up in account recovery if you can’t answer them satisfactorily or you will be told “we don’t have sufficient information to reset your security questions."

Apple support might be able to help you before you enter recovery if you have your receipt for the purchase of a pertinent device from an authorized Apple seller with its serial number on it. You will need a photo ID also. See the support options above to reach Apple Support for help. Alternatively, if an Apple Store is open in your area, then you can go there to deal with your problem. In this case, you can make a genius-bar appointment (https://www.apple.com/retail/geniusbar/) if you want.

Did you forget your password? If it isn't an Activation Lock, how are you locked out?