it stays on the a white screen and says data recovery cannot be completed please restore your iphone from your back up
iPhone XR, iOS 13
Try doing a factory reset. Since you don't have a backup, you will lose any data you had.
See:
Restore your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch from a backup https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT204184
Restoring an iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch backup from iCloud or from a computer when a later version of iOS is required https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT203434
i didn backup my iphone xr
