How does that jive with the definition that all devices with My Photo Stream share the same photos?
That definition is true for iCloud Photos, but not my Photo Stream.
If you want to have all edits and adjustments in sync across all your devices, you should use iCloud Photos, not my Photo Stream. iCloud Photos is perfect for syncing and keeping the libraries on all your devices identical. Your Photos Library will always be identical on all your synced devices and adjustments you apply will update across all devices. And it is working for all kinds of media in your Photos Library - photos, Live Photos, Portrait Mode photos, videos.
My photo Stream on the other hand is as streaming service for transferring new photos, not a syncing service. It is a temporary buffer in iCloud. When you take new photos on your iPhone or iPad, or import new photos to the library on your Mac, the original photos will be uploaded to My Photo Stream, right as they have been imported from the camera. The filters you applied by the camera may be applied, but no later adjustments you added to the photos in your library. They will not be updated in my Photo Stream, unless you import the adjusted photo again. My Photo Stream is a temporary buffer. Older Photos will be purged from My Photo Stream in iCloud after 30 days, even if you are still seeing them on your devices in My Photo Stream. Locally, on your devices, My Photo Stream is caching up to 1000 photos, what you will change in this cache will not be streamed to iCloud.
Apple has not updated My Photo Stream during the last two years. It seems to be phased out. Users with a new AppleID cannot even activate it. It is only available for long time Apple users. Use My Photo Stream on iPhone - Apple Support
If you recently created your Apple ID, My Photo Stream might not be available. If My Photo Stream isn’t available, use iCloud Photos to keep your photos and videos in iCloud.
With a recent iPhone model, that can take Live Photos or videos, I would not use My Photos Stream. It will make it complicated to transfer any of the newer media format. It will just create a mess of of partially transferred Live Photos by just transferring the still frame and you will have a hard time to download the full versions manually.
It is strange, that you are not seeing a My Photo Stream on your iPhone. the My Photo Stream album will be hidden, if you have iCloud Photos enabled. Are you using iCloud Photos on your iPhone?