how do I find or change my iTunes password?

Hi Sandiegograndma,

It sounds like you are needing some assistance with the password tied to the Apple ID you are signed into iTunes with. we are here to help with a resource that should get you pointed in the right direction.

Based on the information you provide, we believe you may find the following information helpful:

If you forgot your Apple ID password

With macOS Catalina:

1. "Choose Apple menu  > System Preferences, then click Apple ID. (Make sure this is the Apple ID you are signed into your iTunes with)
2. Click Password & Security.
3. If you're asked to enter your Apple ID password, click "Forgot Apple ID or password" and follow the onscreen instructions. You can skip the final steps below:
4. Click Change Password. Before you can reset your Apple ID password, you'll be required to enter the password you used to unlock your Mac."

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Cheers!