my iPhone x is saying disabled that i should connect to iTunes which i did but noting is working

You can reset your passcode by following the instructions in this article by Apple ➔ How to reset your passcode on a disabled iPhone. You will need a computer for this task and all your data on your iPhone will be wiped clean in the process.

Try following the instruction in the link above one more time and ensure that you are taking the right steps.

Axel F.